In my life, I have noticed a few constants. PAIN is definitely one constant companion. From loneliness, to physical pain, to mental strain… I know about pain. I do know this though- pain is an excellent teacher. Pain teaches you things you cannot learn in any classroom, anywhere. Pain is a conduit that will propel some to greatness, and bury others. The point I’m getting at is simply that we all go through hard times. Now some are harder than others and I get it if you want to vent, cry, whatever… do what you have to do. But don’t you ever quit. THIS LIFE… NOBODY GETS OUT ALIVE. NOBODY GETS OUT CLEAN. There is a price to pay for everything. People don’t realize that at the beginning.
Finally, after much deliberation, procrastination… my book, Imminent Reaping has hit Amazon and Kindle. Imminent Reaping, my first book, is a 45-page short story for now. I am writing this up to a 300-page masterpiece. I hope you all like it, I hope it sells. Anyway, that’s all for now.
Toughness is a word bandied about a lot. But what is it? As defined by Webster’s Dictionary, toughness is being able to withstand great strain without tearing or breaking (which is also the definition of my first name Kente’); strong and resilient. Toughness is also defined as being aggressive; pugnacious. Seems to me that toughness these days is nothing more than comparing resumes, overtalking someone else, name-calling and throwing around big, politically-correct words, followed by a fistfight. That is not toughness. Toughness, at least my definition of it, is simply an attitude of resilience. Not giving up on anything or anyone. Nowadays, it looks like everything and everyone is disposable like a paper cup or plastic silverware. We have recreational dating, we have all kinds of things that are strictly for fun. We literally have entire industries based on the flippancy of people. It is 2014, and look at how weak everyone has become. In our “progressive” world, we have modern families, we have everything that is top-shelf. Toughness is not promoted. Why? Toughness is sorely needed. Comedian Chris Rock recently stated that “kids need bullying”. Why on earth would he say that? In my estimation, he was referring to the toughness created by dealing with people who hate you and decide to mistreat you. Life is not fair. The attempts by the popular culture and the political class to “level the playing field” is ludicrous at best. Life is tough. It does not stop. Time doesn’t stop going. So I ask you all who are reading- is toughness part of you? How many of you have beat a drug problem? Or stopped drinking? This past week made three years for me being sober. I do not miss drinking. At first, I would fight the temptation not to drink. As time went on, it went away.
Toughness is an attitude. And attitude is everything. By toughness, I don’t mean living like an outlaw, destroying everything in your path. Take me for instance. I am an Army vet. I stand 5-11, weigh 238 lbs. I am a guy who likes to fight, military history, etc. Some of the toughest people I have seen were women who didn’t raise their voices or their hands to anyone. I sat and listened to their life experiences, their wisdom. They talked to me in a very soft voice. Old ladies. Tougher than a “two-dollar steak”, as the old saying goes. I am a big believer in what is called “self-talk”. Self-talk is what you say to yourself. Lots of people think that talking to yourself is some sign of inherent mental illness. That perception couldn’t be further from the truth. People tend to believe what the world says about them more than what they believe about themselves. It is a sad sight to see, a person who is a doormat. People who believe lies about themselves. As you all know, I am not a man who is afraid or ashamed to talk about himself. I battled fear, doubt, insecurity, depression, anger and angst for years. A lot of my “issues” came from my self-talk. The more you dwell on the negatives in your life, the weaker you become. Mentally weakened people are not tough. You see it in sports, like in a football game. One team may be stronger, more athletic, more well-like by people in general. The other team may be despised and a “gaggle of hooligans”. The less talented team wins with ease. Why? Mental toughness. One team will bring confidence, swagger and the will to win that crushes the other team. Such how it is in life. People must understand that no amount of knowledge, no adherence or compliance with the popular opinion on “social issues” will help you win in life. The issue of toughness is all about being able to endure hardship, as life is all about loss, pain and being able to withstand it without being destroyed by it.
In closing, I am living proof that life doesn’t have to be a series of losses, or whatever you are fearing. People fear conflict so much they will concede to anything that guarantees ease, peace, tranquility. It is imperative to develop toughness. But how do you develop toughness? In my succinct opinionation of it all, it is to realize that nobody owes you anything. Nobody is responsible for you eating, nobody has to help you. It is all about taking personal responsibility for your life. Using self-control, discipline and never giving up on your hopes, dreams and goals is essential to developing toughness, mental toughness I should say. Physical toughness and strength is also something that has to be developed through calisthenics (push-ups, sit-ups, running), weight-training, stuff like that. I would rather have a weak body than a weak mind. In summation, toughness is something that is developed. No one can do it for you (most folks will assist you in your demise). It is all about your level of pride in yourself, the level of determination to achieve and succeed in life. Never allow life to crush you. Life in my eyes is nothing more than a long, drawn out war. Conquer life or it will conquer you.
As far as I can remember, I have always been attracted to women, especially ones who are curvy, have wide hips and big butts. This is a G-rated blog, so I will not get too graphic here. I have come to appreciate the thinner ones as I have gotten older. I must admit my tastes have changed somewhat… Yes I married a big girl… I love her. Yet, my tastes are changing. I’m not ashamed to say it here, or in real life. I am saying however, if I see a curvy blonde. WOW… and yes, my wife is a brunette. I have the desire to see her get to a size 6 at the smallest. I wanna see her have fun in life. But sexually, she can do much more if she would shed the excess pounds. I am shedding weight myself.. in the process of the last 3 years, I have gotten hurt way too many times. Tore a pec last year, can;t really run the way I want to due to training, I may never get things to the way I envision them. I will stay at it until I get the look I want. My green-eyed wife gets stares, compliments, and guys trying to get with her at times. I want my wife to get hot… okay, enough on that… What does it for you guys? BIG BUTTS? Big tits? What does it for you ladies? Broad shoulders, a six-pack and all?