How many of you are in a bad relationship? A bad marriage? Like it’s seemingly done? At a loss at what to about it? Take heart. Only two options ever existed in the first place: BATES’ LAW states “that in any relationship, one must either change or leave”. It’s that simple. Yes. Very simple. But oh, so hard. Emotions, kids, money, etc. I promise you all that if you make that “hard choice” now, you will be fine later on. I am not promising a quick fix. I would be a fool to do such a thing. What I am saying is be willing to learn to fight alone (see Clubber Lang on Rocky II LOL). It’s in the hard times where you grow.



In an effort to make sure I give recognition to various causes, I am shining a light on Autism awareness. I happen to have a friend whose child, Desmond, is autistic. Turns out his son’s school in Tigard, OR (CFT Elementary) does not have th money to support the special needs children there. Here is the full story here:

I Run For Desmond



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Amy Zirkelbach and her family are running for Autism Awareness/ raising money to support Desmond and the Special Ed Dept. at CFT Elementary.

I wanted to tell you about an awesome kid named Desmond. He is my son and he has a form of (ASD) Autism Spectrum Disorder. It is a disorder In which effects thousands of people in our community everyday. This disorder involves delay in social /communication abilities and learning development.
Desmond has been such a blessing. He can shine a light on anyone’s day, if you just spent a few moments interacting with him. He has his own ways of expressing himself and getting everyone’s attention.  In this past year that he has attended Charles F. Tigard Elementary he has shown tremendous improvement in his social and communication abilities. I thank everyone who has supported Desmond at this school. I want to continue helping my son succeed in school, but the funds are not always available to the special education department to meet the needs of the children with many disorders like Desmond.

I am proposing to you to help make people aware of ASD in our schools by supporting and getting involved.

How to support is easy…. I am running a series of races in the portland metro area. Just choose a race and donate.For every mile I sweat you donate a dollar to the cause.  If you want to donate more, that is Awesome!!!

Another way to support is If you enjoy running, you can sign up for team I run for Desmond (for some of the races) when you register for that race. We love all the support we can get so just put on those running shoes and bright colored shorts and prepare to have a great run.
Races I Am Running:

*Shamrock Run 15k (9+ miles) March 16

*Race For Roses 1/2 Marathon (13+ miles) April 13 TEAM REGISTRATION I RUN FOR DESMOND

*Sean’s Run 10k (6+ miles) April 26

*Rock and Roll 1/2 Marathon (13+ miles) May 18

RELATIONSHIPS and other musings

I was driving down the street the other day after my workout… I got to thinking all the “what ifs”, etc… I got to thinking about women I was involved with… and what life would be like if had married each woman as opposed to my current wife. As some of you know, I like my women curvy… not skinny as a rail… and they have to have a mind of their own. With that being said, I was riding home and was reminiscing of past relationships. I have been a man who never discriminated in his dating choices. I have dated Black, White, Spanish, Asian women. I got to thinking about all of them. Thinking of them, got me to thinking about my evolution as a man. I went from wanting big-breasted, wide-hipped, big butt having sluts to marrying a pretty average young woman (I am 9 years older than my wife). Nothing wrong with average, come to find out, things can be very adventrous (in the bedroom and out). In so many ways, I saw myself growing from a sex-crazed youngster who wanted nothing but big titties in his face and rough sex into a man who loves his family. Realizing that, even though I am 37, it’s humbling. I see quite a few guys my age and older still trying to play the field. Not something I want for my life… I am not judging those guys, just illustrating the differences. My younger brother, who is 35, is still living by the Players’ Code. In my opinion, it is time for him to hang it up and move on to the next chapter of his life. I am not perfect, I just have learned from a lot of the stupid crap I did when I was younger. Thanks for travelling down memory lane with me.