I recently gave a speech for our local National Guard unit. I was speaking on toughness, or as the Army calls it, resiliency. In my view… toughness is something that has to be developed. Merriam-Webster’s calls resiliency “the ability to rise above adversity”. How many of you consider yourselves to be tough, or resilient? How many of you honestly can look down at your life and say unecquivocally that you have that trait? In my eyes, we all have it, but in varying degrees. In my case, I had to grow into this. It was painful and took almost 35 years. This is something near and dear to me. I love seeing people “get over”. I am all about “putting people over”. Toughness is a whole hell of a lot more than using curse words, talking loud and being overbearing. Some of the toughest people I ever met were under 5 feet tall, under 100 pounds.
I am sure a lot of you are reminiscing by now, looking at your body, looking at the tattoos, the scars, memories. If you grew up in my era (late 1990s/early 2000s), you can attest to a shift in the overall consciousness of Americans.Seems to be a less confident, less resilient people now. More groupthink, less “rugged individualism”. More victimhood rather than a “can-do” spirit. I will leave you all with this: Do not be afraid to fail. Don’t be afraid to be hurt. Never fear anything.
Hey people. Just back from a somewhat ill-fated trip. Ever have a really bad 96 hour time frame where it seems to be what everyone around you is lying to you? I’ve had years like that. Not very fun at all. Plans falling apart, just awful things. A really bad flight where I almost passed out because of the heat. It’s ridiculous at times how life is. I’d by lying if I were to say it didn’t hurt, sting or aggravate me.
I get back home, another fight, a house that looked like a terrorist attack. People calling, aggravating me about BS that they coulda let go. Typical humanoids.
Four days worth of nonsense. I need a real vacation.
I been having a LOT of hard times lately. Gives me introspection on the world around me as well as myself and my struggles. I have gathered one thing from my difficulties, and that is perseverance. It is essential to success. Quitting, running from your problems, that just does not work. It is in the hard times where you find out who you are, what you’re capable of. I tend to say that is in the fight you make your name. Besides, I haven’t come this far to turn back now.
It’s been a while. So I am back with some new stuff to tell ya. Recently I was made privy to some stuff about some close friends of mine. One of them, and old Army buddy, is basically Norbit. So much so, he was called out on it by his section sergeant (2012) and was laughed at for it. I got love for dude, but he allows this sheboon in his life to walk all over him. It’s disquieting to say the least. Another friend, who I met along the way out West, is in a bad way. On one hand, he is doing great things in his life. On the other hand, seems as if his personal life is falling apart. Bad times, bad people, bad things happening to a good dude. He feels alone in a lot of things, since he is a newcomer to a major West Coast city. I talk to him a lot. He comes to a consensus that he is going to change his life in a major way. With his work, he isn’t settling for anything. He wants to work multiple jobs. He wants to date again (he is out meeting, greeting people through his work anyway), plus he understands that life is nothing nice. I applaud his courage, because change doesn’t just happen. Besides, he’s too smart to just allow things to happen to him and not challenge/overcome them. His attitude has undergone a facelift, as he talks of personal branding. He’s even talking about writing a book and self-publishing (or getting it on amazon). Seems to me buddy is basically having a second coming-of-age. He is in his early 30s, yet experiencing life as a twentysomething would. I’d say my friend is just finally coming into his own. To hear him tell the tale, he was an outsider of outsiders. With much advice, insight, prayer and relating my story to him, he sees that he wasn’t so bad after all. Just he grew up around a lot of fools in a foolish time.
In closing, I must say I have seen a lot of people like this- amazingly enough, most of these achieve a lot later on in life.
One look in the magazines, especially in the tabloids- all you see are the super-skinny models and Hollywood starlets. That’s what’s supposed to be ‘the standard’. One look at those who are NOT skinny like Nicole Richie… they are the comic foils, the frumpy, dumpy sidekicks of the hot girl. Or if it’s a big guy… he’s a dumb meathead who ‘just can’t get right’. Seems as if there is an unwritten rule in our society- it’s more acceptable to be a drug-addled degenerate than to be overweight. And what does this have to do with dating, relationships, and sex? Everything. Our tastes are more than likely molded by the media… and how many of us are not the size 6 cheerleader-type, or the 6-2 195 jock that oozes machismo? This type of thing will (and does) destroy young minds and young lives. Anorexia/bulimia, drug use, starvation, and all other forms of angst are prevalent in society today amongst teens. Too many adukts carry the scars of this… and they either shrink into nothing, or become the exact opposite of who they really are. Is there a bias against the overweight in our society? You better believe it. It is a symptom of a self-absorbed culture dedicated to self-gratification and mindless self-indulgence at all costs. How many people have died taking dangerous and expensive diet pills, or died under the knife getting plastic surgery (liposuction, sculpting, etc), to fit a meme that will only satisfy what’s on the outside. It’s what’s on the inside that counts, not the outside. Because simply…. we are all going to get old, get fat, and die. No matter how long you work out, no matter how many plastic surgeries (look at Nancy Pelosi haha) Our society is sick. All for a look. Looks fade. There will always be someone taller, younger, leaner, more muscular, better looking. There should not be a bias against the overweight- there should be NO biases period. On this topic, how much sense does it make to destroy your body (from the inside out) because you want to look like a girl on tv…. or you endanger your central nervous system because you want a look like some roided-up pro diva whatever…How many MORE rehab shows on tv… normalizing degenerate behavior… must we sit through… it’s sad how our society is. With all the people starving to death overseas and below the border, the focus of shame, and fault-finding is with those who are not looking like models, athletes and entertainers. How many of you young women judge yourselves by some unattainable image on the television screen? And how many of you young men strive to be what you see and hear… Patently absurd.