TEDX TALK

I know it’s been a while. Here goes. I recently saw a webinar that talked about how to get a TEDX Talk. I hope to have this sealed by Wednesday. Those of you who know me (IRL and online) should know I am one person who is very driven and loves to talk. I think it will happen.  I don’t know about you guys, but this era (2010s Obama/Trump Era) is very weird, like we are at the dawn of a brand new world. Some say we are in a revolution. In any case, this era has proven to be exciting and very interesting.

As for doing a TEDX talk… anything that would help my side interests (fitness training, life coaching) get off the ground will help immensely. I certainly hope my posts inspire you in some way.

LIFE COACHING AND SPEAKING

New development… I have been studying, looking around. I am ready to get somewhere. I am already a personal trainer… now I am adding public speaker and my Life Coaching cert will definitely help in this. I want to thank all of you who have been patient with me… I know it does look like I am not doing anything… obviously that’s not the case. Thanks again.

Heard Em Say…

I recently got told (and get told every so often) that I can be very intimidating. I laugh (because to me it is somewhat funny) yet I wonder… if I were like the guy I once was, super-duper nice, didn’t defend himself, all the traits that people-pleasers show… well, people would STILL try to crap all over me. I recently read about a boy in Texas who was beaten in class, as the teacher and students watched. He allowed some kid to pummel him in front of the world, and he didn’t even lift his arms to defend himself. In my eyes, it’s shameful to see kids be taught to be wusses and crybabies instead of teaching kids to be smart, assertive, independent, etc.

I remember always being deemed “controversial”, “loud”, “outspoken”. I used to try and fight that. Now, I embrace it. It feels good to be the villain in certain situations. By no means am I one to ever start any sort of confrontation. You can rest assured that I will be heard, and I will finish any type of altercation.

What do people say about you?

NEW!!!

Finally, after much deliberation, procrastination… my book, Imminent Reaping has hit Amazon and Kindle. Imminent Reaping, my first book, is a 45-page short story for now. I am writing this up to a 300-page masterpiece. I hope you all like it, I hope it sells. Anyway, that’s all for now.

TOUGHNESS

I recently gave a speech for our local National Guard unit. I was speaking on toughness, or as the Army calls it, resiliency. In my view… toughness is something that has to be developed. Merriam-Webster’s calls resiliency “the ability to rise above adversity”. How many of you consider yourselves to be tough, or resilient? How many of you honestly can look down at your life and say unecquivocally that you have that trait? In my eyes, we all have it, but in varying degrees. In my case, I had to grow into this. It was painful and took almost 35 years. This is something near and dear to me. I love seeing people “get over”. I am all about “putting people over”. Toughness is a whole hell of a lot more than using curse words, talking loud and being overbearing. Some of the toughest people I ever met were under 5 feet tall, under 100 pounds.

I am sure a lot of you are reminiscing by now, looking at your body, looking at the tattoos, the scars, memories. If you grew up in my era (late 1990s/early 2000s), you can attest to a shift in the overall consciousness of Americans.Seems to be a less confident, less resilient people now. More groupthink, less “rugged individualism”. More victimhood rather than a “can-do” spirit. I will leave you all with this: Do not be afraid to fail. Don’t be afraid to be hurt. Never fear anything.

On the Real

Lately, I’ve been working like I have four legs, a tail and wear a collar. So much so, I work (with pride, mind you) past the point of exhaustion. A whole lot of trials, tribulations have come and gone. I must say I have shown incredible restraint on a lot of subjects, though I have been very outspoken in these situations. An outlet for me has been the gym. Been getting new personal bests recently. I have never been stronger physically. At my age (39) I can honestly say I have never been stronger, more mentally sharp. It’s only a matter of time before I break through. I thank God for the strength to do all this (in distress). I wanna thank my supporters who listen to my BS. The struggle is real, folks.

My question to all of you is: What do you all do for a release from pressure/life?

ASHY TO CLASSY

Recently a buddy of mine in the A has been racking up wins. Now, he’s a supervisor at his new job. I am very pleased and proud to know that he is doing great. Add to that, he’s a burgeoning writer. As a friend, I can stand by and watch him succeed (as a fan watches his/her fave sports team). I am proud to know Mr. LeBeau and to watch his development- from ashy to classy. He had been taking quite a few L’s since I’ve known him. Now, I would like to take the credit for his development and his success… I know I’d be lying, and doing that makes for nothing more than being a disingenuous fraud.

Pain

How many of you are in a bad relationship? A bad marriage? Like it’s seemingly done? At a loss at what to about it? Take heart. Only two options ever existed in the first place: BATES’ LAW states “that in any relationship, one must either change or leave”. It’s that simple. Yes. Very simple. But oh, so hard. Emotions, kids, money, etc. I promise you all that if you make that “hard choice” now, you will be fine later on. I am not promising a quick fix. I would be a fool to do such a thing. What I am saying is be willing to learn to fight alone (see Clubber Lang on Rocky II LOL). It’s in the hard times where you grow.

When You’re Tired…

I was recently made aware of a friend’s bad relationship. He was set to leave his wife… he had a change of heart. He was wise in my eyes to get himself some $$$, to immerse himself in his work, then go to war. Folks, no matter what kind of bad relationship it may be… when you’re tired… of lies… tired… of disrespect… tired… of a B.S. sandwich… you gotta make the tough choices. Make these choices with the intention of freeing yourself. You can and will survive. You will recover.