Is it morally wrong for a 19 year old to date a 40 year old? by Kente Bates https://www.quora.com/Is-it-morally-wrong-for-a-19-year-old-to-date-a-40-year-old/answer/Kente-Bates-1?share=ac1c3a82&srid=5TJAJ
In my life, I have noticed a few constants. PAIN is definitely one constant companion. From loneliness, to physical pain, to mental strain… I know about pain. I do know this though- pain is an excellent teacher. Pain teaches you things you cannot learn in any classroom, anywhere. Pain is a conduit that will propel some to greatness, and bury others. The point I’m getting at is simply that we all go through hard times. Now some are harder than others and I get it if you want to vent, cry, whatever… do what you have to do. But don’t you ever quit. THIS LIFE… NOBODY GETS OUT ALIVE. NOBODY GETS OUT CLEAN. There is a price to pay for everything. People don’t realize that at the beginning.
New development… I have been studying, looking around. I am ready to get somewhere. I am already a personal trainer… now I am adding public speaker and my Life Coaching cert will definitely help in this. I want to thank all of you who have been patient with me… I know it does look like I am not doing anything… obviously that’s not the case. Thanks again.
I recently gave a speech for our local National Guard unit. I was speaking on toughness, or as the Army calls it, resiliency. In my view… toughness is something that has to be developed. Merriam-Webster’s calls resiliency “the ability to rise above adversity”. How many of you consider yourselves to be tough, or resilient? How many of you honestly can look down at your life and say unecquivocally that you have that trait? In my eyes, we all have it, but in varying degrees. In my case, I had to grow into this. It was painful and took almost 35 years. This is something near and dear to me. I love seeing people “get over”. I am all about “putting people over”. Toughness is a whole hell of a lot more than using curse words, talking loud and being overbearing. Some of the toughest people I ever met were under 5 feet tall, under 100 pounds.
I am sure a lot of you are reminiscing by now, looking at your body, looking at the tattoos, the scars, memories. If you grew up in my era (late 1990s/early 2000s), you can attest to a shift in the overall consciousness of Americans.Seems to be a less confident, less resilient people now. More groupthink, less “rugged individualism”. More victimhood rather than a “can-do” spirit. I will leave you all with this: Do not be afraid to fail. Don’t be afraid to be hurt. Never fear anything.
Lately, I’ve been working like I have four legs, a tail and wear a collar. So much so, I work (with pride, mind you) past the point of exhaustion. A whole lot of trials, tribulations have come and gone. I must say I have shown incredible restraint on a lot of subjects, though I have been very outspoken in these situations. An outlet for me has been the gym. Been getting new personal bests recently. I have never been stronger physically. At my age (39) I can honestly say I have never been stronger, more mentally sharp. It’s only a matter of time before I break through. I thank God for the strength to do all this (in distress). I wanna thank my supporters who listen to my BS. The struggle is real, folks.
My question to all of you is: What do you all do for a release from pressure/life?
Recently a buddy of mine in the A has been racking up wins. Now, he’s a supervisor at his new job. I am very pleased and proud to know that he is doing great. Add to that, he’s a burgeoning writer. As a friend, I can stand by and watch him succeed (as a fan watches his/her fave sports team). I am proud to know Mr. LeBeau and to watch his development- from ashy to classy. He had been taking quite a few L’s since I’ve known him. Now, I would like to take the credit for his development and his success… I know I’d be lying, and doing that makes for nothing more than being a disingenuous fraud.
How many of you are in a bad relationship? A bad marriage? Like it’s seemingly done? At a loss at what to about it? Take heart. Only two options ever existed in the first place: BATES’ LAW states “that in any relationship, one must either change or leave”. It’s that simple. Yes. Very simple. But oh, so hard. Emotions, kids, money, etc. I promise you all that if you make that “hard choice” now, you will be fine later on. I am not promising a quick fix. I would be a fool to do such a thing. What I am saying is be willing to learn to fight alone (see Clubber Lang on Rocky II LOL). It’s in the hard times where you grow.
I remember watching a SWP video a while back (SWP is Sergeant Willie Pete, a controversial Black Youtuber who started his own site, Gen X. Men’s Rights guy. A forerunner to guys like Tommy Sotomayor) and he had coined the phrase “recreational dating” back in 2008-09. I tend to believe that dating is now a lot like a sport. In my view, especially in this country, dating and sex is almost a religion. It is ridiculous to me how people fool around, especially young men, given the realities of male-female relations in 2015, going into 2016. Men don’t have the same safeguards, safety nets as women do. In my eyes, young men should focus on getting money instead of banging slags. Merely my opinion, take it or leave it. There are more women than men now. Men need to realize they have the same power to make something of themselves that women do. Make that money, call the shots. Time to get serious, fellas. Enough playing around.