In my life, I have noticed a few constants. PAIN is definitely one constant companion. From loneliness, to physical pain, to mental strain… I know about pain. I do know this though- pain is an excellent teacher. Pain teaches you things you cannot learn in any classroom, anywhere. Pain is a conduit that will propel some to greatness, and bury others. The point I’m getting at is simply that we all go through hard times. Now some are harder than others and I get it if you want to vent, cry, whatever… do what you have to do. But don’t you ever quit. THIS LIFE… NOBODY GETS OUT ALIVE. NOBODY GETS OUT CLEAN. There is a price to pay for everything. People don’t realize that at the beginning.
New development… I have been studying, looking around. I am ready to get somewhere. I am already a personal trainer… now I am adding public speaker and my Life Coaching cert will definitely help in this. I want to thank all of you who have been patient with me… I know it does look like I am not doing anything… obviously that’s not the case. Thanks again.
I recently gave a speech for our local National Guard unit. I was speaking on toughness, or as the Army calls it, resiliency. In my view… toughness is something that has to be developed. Merriam-Webster’s calls resiliency “the ability to rise above adversity”. How many of you consider yourselves to be tough, or resilient? How many of you honestly can look down at your life and say unecquivocally that you have that trait? In my eyes, we all have it, but in varying degrees. In my case, I had to grow into this. It was painful and took almost 35 years. This is something near and dear to me. I love seeing people “get over”. I am all about “putting people over”. Toughness is a whole hell of a lot more than using curse words, talking loud and being overbearing. Some of the toughest people I ever met were under 5 feet tall, under 100 pounds.
I am sure a lot of you are reminiscing by now, looking at your body, looking at the tattoos, the scars, memories. If you grew up in my era (late 1990s/early 2000s), you can attest to a shift in the overall consciousness of Americans.Seems to be a less confident, less resilient people now. More groupthink, less “rugged individualism”. More victimhood rather than a “can-do” spirit. I will leave you all with this: Do not be afraid to fail. Don’t be afraid to be hurt. Never fear anything.
Lately, I’ve been working like I have four legs, a tail and wear a collar. So much so, I work (with pride, mind you) past the point of exhaustion. A whole lot of trials, tribulations have come and gone. I must say I have shown incredible restraint on a lot of subjects, though I have been very outspoken in these situations. An outlet for me has been the gym. Been getting new personal bests recently. I have never been stronger physically. At my age (39) I can honestly say I have never been stronger, more mentally sharp. It’s only a matter of time before I break through. I thank God for the strength to do all this (in distress). I wanna thank my supporters who listen to my BS. The struggle is real, folks.
My question to all of you is: What do you all do for a release from pressure/life?
Recently a buddy of mine in the A has been racking up wins. Now, he’s a supervisor at his new job. I am very pleased and proud to know that he is doing great. Add to that, he’s a burgeoning writer. As a friend, I can stand by and watch him succeed (as a fan watches his/her fave sports team). I am proud to know Mr. LeBeau and to watch his development- from ashy to classy. He had been taking quite a few L’s since I’ve known him. Now, I would like to take the credit for his development and his success… I know I’d be lying, and doing that makes for nothing more than being a disingenuous fraud.
How many of you are in a bad relationship? A bad marriage? Like it’s seemingly done? At a loss at what to about it? Take heart. Only two options ever existed in the first place: BATES’ LAW states “that in any relationship, one must either change or leave”. It’s that simple. Yes. Very simple. But oh, so hard. Emotions, kids, money, etc. I promise you all that if you make that “hard choice” now, you will be fine later on. I am not promising a quick fix. I would be a fool to do such a thing. What I am saying is be willing to learn to fight alone (see Clubber Lang on Rocky II LOL). It’s in the hard times where you grow.
I remember watching a SWP video a while back (SWP is Sergeant Willie Pete, a controversial Black Youtuber who started his own site, Gen X. Men’s Rights guy. A forerunner to guys like Tommy Sotomayor) and he had coined the phrase “recreational dating” back in 2008-09. I tend to believe that dating is now a lot like a sport. In my view, especially in this country, dating and sex is almost a religion. It is ridiculous to me how people fool around, especially young men, given the realities of male-female relations in 2015, going into 2016. Men don’t have the same safeguards, safety nets as women do. In my eyes, young men should focus on getting money instead of banging slags. Merely my opinion, take it or leave it. There are more women than men now. Men need to realize they have the same power to make something of themselves that women do. Make that money, call the shots. Time to get serious, fellas. Enough playing around.
Take this for what you will, ladies and gentlemen. We live in a society that doesn’t give two f**ks about anything except what they can get from someone else. If men ain’t worth it ladies, be like Fleetwood Mac and go your own way. Complaining about men won’t change YOUR lot in life (unless you like being bitter angry and spiteful harpies). Men, if these women are nothing but hoes, idiots and all that, GO YOUR OWN WAY. It’s a big world out there. Whining about women gets old and it changes nothing. In closing… DO YOU.
Yes. I am talking about a topic men and women either love to talk about or hate to talk about. People cannot not have a stance on this. For those of you who follow the blog, who know me in real life, etc. knows that I married a White woman, and have two kids by her. I am gonna talk about interracial relationships. Nobody ever gets mad or upset about any combination of WM/ANY WOMAN. I have come to expect that. Now, whenever it comes to Black men (and I expect this too, and it’s not unjustifiable) doing the interracial thing… everybody wants to control him. Why the interest in who a Black man dates (and I don’t mean the cuckold crap), why try to control what a free man does? Interracial relationships are on television all the time, only that 98% does not involve a Black man. Simply put, it tells me that in this regard, that myths, hate and fear still rule.
As for the Black woman (and her many failings), there is a reason why lots of Black men are choosing non-Black women. Black women are PISSED. They don’t like that one bit. In my view, they wanted their cake and to eat it. They want the thugs, pimps, players, etc. and to have the nice guys, the good guys as a “fool on stand-by” so when they are done whoring around, they can saddle that good guy with the emotional baggage, kids and everything else that accumulates from the street life.
NOTE: I REALIZE THIS IS A SENSITIVE SUBJECT. I ALSO REALIZE THAT ALL WOMEN ARE CAPABLE OF THINGS LIKE THIS. IT’S JUST HUMAN NATURE OF COURSE.
There is a huge ongoing debate online that sometimes spills over into real life about this subject. This can go over into a million different directions, but I will not have that today. This is Part One of several I will do.
Remember, people do have options, opinions and all. Don’t try to hate what someone else is doing because you feel some superiority complex.