PAIN

In my life, I have noticed a few constants. PAIN is definitely one constant companion. ¬†From loneliness, to physical pain, to mental strain… I know about pain. I do know this though- pain is an excellent teacher. Pain teaches you things you cannot learn in any classroom, anywhere. Pain is a conduit that will propel some to greatness, and bury others. The point I’m getting at is simply that we all go through hard times. Now some are harder than others and I get it if you want to vent, cry, whatever… do what you have to do. But don’t you ever quit. THIS LIFE… NOBODY GETS OUT ALIVE. NOBODY GETS OUT CLEAN. There is a price to pay for everything. People don’t realize that at the beginning.

LIFE COACHING AND SPEAKING

New development… I have been studying, looking around. I am ready to get somewhere. I am already a personal trainer… now I am adding public speaker and my Life Coaching cert will definitely help in this. I want to thank all of you who have been patient with me… I know it does look like I am not doing anything… obviously that’s not the case. Thanks again.

TOUGHNESS

I recently gave a speech for our local National Guard unit. I was speaking on toughness, or as the Army calls it, resiliency. In my view… toughness is something that has to be developed. Merriam-Webster’s calls resiliency “the ability to rise above adversity”. How many of you consider yourselves to be tough, or resilient? How many of you honestly can look down at your life and say unecquivocally that you have that trait? In my eyes, we all have it, but in varying degrees. In my case, I had to grow into this. It was painful and took almost 35 years. This is something near and dear to me. I love seeing people “get over”. I am all about “putting people over”. Toughness is a whole hell of a lot more than using curse words, talking loud and being overbearing. Some of the toughest people I ever met were under 5 feet tall, under 100 pounds.

I am sure a lot of you are reminiscing by now, looking at your body, looking at the tattoos, the scars, memories. If you grew up in my era (late 1990s/early 2000s), you can attest to a shift in the overall consciousness of Americans.Seems to be a less confident, less resilient people now. More groupthink, less “rugged individualism”. More victimhood rather than a “can-do” spirit. I will leave you all with this: Do not be afraid to fail. Don’t be afraid to be hurt. Never fear anything.

On the Real

Lately, I’ve been working like I have four legs, a tail and wear a collar. So much so, I work (with pride, mind you) past the point of exhaustion. A whole lot of trials, tribulations have come and gone. I must say I have shown incredible restraint on a lot of subjects, though I have been very outspoken in these situations. An outlet for me has been the gym. Been getting new personal bests recently. I have never been stronger physically. At my age (39) I can honestly say I have never been stronger, more mentally sharp. It’s only a matter of time before I break through. I thank God for the strength to do all this (in distress). I wanna thank my supporters who listen to my BS. The struggle is real, folks.

My question to all of you is: What do you all do for a release from pressure/life?

ASHY TO CLASSY

Recently a buddy of mine in the A has been racking up wins. Now, he’s a supervisor at his new job. I am very pleased and proud to know that he is doing great. Add to that, he’s a burgeoning writer. As a friend, I can stand by and watch him succeed (as a fan watches his/her fave sports team). I am proud to know Mr. LeBeau and to watch his development- from ashy to classy. He had been taking quite a few L’s since I’ve known him. Now, I would like to take the credit for his development and his success… I know I’d be lying, and doing that makes for nothing more than being a disingenuous fraud.

Pain

How many of you are in a bad relationship? A bad marriage? Like it’s seemingly done? At a loss at what to about it? Take heart. Only two options ever existed in the first place: BATES’ LAW states “that in any relationship, one must either change or leave”. It’s that simple. Yes. Very simple. But oh, so hard. Emotions, kids, money, etc. I promise you all that if you make that “hard choice” now, you will be fine later on. I am not promising a quick fix. I would be a fool to do such a thing. What I am saying is be willing to learn to fight alone (see Clubber Lang on Rocky II LOL). It’s in the hard times where you grow.

HUMANOIDS

Hey people. Just back from a somewhat ill-fated trip. Ever have a really bad 96 hour time frame where it seems to be what everyone around you is lying to you? I’ve had years like that. Not very fun at all. Plans falling apart, just awful things. A really bad flight where I almost passed out because of the heat. It’s ridiculous at times how life is. I’d by lying if I were to say it didn’t hurt, sting or aggravate me.

I get back home, another fight, a house that looked like a terrorist attack. People calling, aggravating me about BS that they coulda let go. Typical humanoids.

Four days worth of nonsense. I need a real vacation.