“Good Black Men Must Be Vociferous”!!


Question on Quora

Is it morally wrong for a 19 year old to date a 40 year old? by Kente Bates https://www.quora.com/Is-it-morally-wrong-for-a-19-year-old-to-date-a-40-year-old/answer/Kente-Bates-1?share=ac1c3a82&srid=5TJAJ

Opinions please…


How many of you are in a bad relationship? A bad marriage? Like it’s seemingly done? At a loss at what to about it? Take heart. Only two options ever existed in the first place: BATES’ LAW states “that in any relationship, one must either change or leave”. It’s that simple. Yes. Very simple. But oh, so hard. Emotions, kids, money, etc. I promise you all that if you make that “hard choice” now, you will be fine later on. I am not promising a quick fix. I would be a fool to do such a thing. What I am saying is be willing to learn to fight alone (see Clubber Lang on Rocky II LOL). It’s in the hard times where you grow.

Dating in 2015: Is it now a sport?

I remember watching a SWP video a while back (SWP is Sergeant Willie Pete, a controversial Black Youtuber who started his own site, Gen X. Men’s Rights guy. A forerunner to guys like Tommy Sotomayor) and he had coined the phrase “recreational dating” back in 2008-09. I tend to believe that dating is now a lot like a sport. In my view, especially in this country, dating and sex is almost a religion. It is ridiculous to me how people fool around, especially young men, given the realities of male-female relations in 2015, going into 2016. Men don’t have the same safeguards, safety nets as women do. In my eyes, young men should focus on getting money instead of banging slags. Merely my opinion, take it or leave it. There are more women than men now. Men need to realize they have the same power to make something of themselves that women do. Make that money, call the shots. Time to get serious, fellas. Enough playing around.


Take this for what you will, ladies and gentlemen. We live in a society that doesn’t give two f**ks about anything except what they can get from someone else. If men ain’t worth it ladies, be like Fleetwood Mac and go your own way. Complaining about men won’t change YOUR lot in life (unless you like being bitter angry and spiteful harpies). Men, if these women are nothing but hoes, idiots and all that, GO YOUR OWN WAY. It’s a big world out there. Whining about women gets old and it changes nothing. In closing… DO YOU.

REPOST: @selectorjah: signs

The FIRST sign that a man will actually be able to PRODUCE SOMETHING in his lifetime has to do with his TRAITS. If a man is AMBITIOUS, PRODUCTIVE, HARD WORKING, HAS CAPABILITIES and is RESPONSIBLE even if he is trying early on in life, TANGIBLE things WILL be produced at SOME TIME later on in his life.
This is the MISTAKE a LOT of females make when choosing a life partner. When assessing a man,they overlook important traits such as those I mentioned, which could REALLY be the deciding factors as to what man can provide for a family and provide stability etc.
These trifling females don’t look for those TRAITS when looking for a man EARLY in his life while he is trying to build something for himself and his legacy. Instead they look at SWAG, if he has TATTOOS, if he has a BIG DICK/ good sex game, if he is a BAD BOY and will fight over her and other such STUPID criteria.
Instead they SHUN the DECENT, HARDWORKING man UNTIL he has achieved something tangible and AFTER SHE has been ran through by those SAME bad boys and swag fags realizing many years later that those types CANNOT provide her with the lifestyle she wants nor can he produce ANYTHING for their offspring. Not even money. So NOW she is looking for a man who has WORKED HARD and SACRIFICED and got turned down by EXACTLY females like her and EXPECTS him just to split HIS assets and wealth that he worked HARD for WHILE getting turned down by women LIKE her for WORTHLESS dudes.
A lot of people always talk about women’s choices in men, but I say IF females would STOP looking at STUPID traits like swag, dick game, tattoos, bad boy status etc. and start choosing men based on SENSIBLE traits like being HARD WORKING, AMBITIOUS , being a stand up guy, INSTEAD of shunning these types UNTIL later on in life when they actually have the money that they want(different from wanting HIM for who he is), then these females would actually start to have families where they are with men who actually DOES produce something for their family and legacy.


Yes. I am talking about a topic men and women either love to talk about or hate to talk about. People cannot not have a stance on this. For those of you who follow the blog, who know me in real life, etc. knows that I married a White woman, and have two kids by her. I am gonna talk about interracial relationships. Nobody ever gets mad or upset about any combination of WM/ANY WOMAN. I have come to expect that. Now, whenever it comes to Black men (and I expect this too, and it’s not unjustifiable) doing the interracial thing… everybody wants to control him. Why the interest in who a Black man dates (and I don’t mean the cuckold crap), why try to control what a free man does? Interracial relationships are on television all the time, only that 98% does not involve a Black man. Simply put, it tells me that in this regard, that myths, hate and fear still rule.

As for the Black woman (and her many failings), there is a reason why lots of Black men are choosing non-Black women. Black women are PISSED. They don’t like that one bit. In my view, they wanted their cake and to eat it. They want the thugs, pimps, players, etc. and to have the nice guys, the good guys as a “fool on stand-by” so when they are done whoring around, they can saddle that good guy with the emotional baggage, kids and everything else that accumulates from the street life.


There is a huge ongoing debate online that sometimes spills over into real life about this subject. This can go over into a million different directions, but I will not have that today. This is Part One of several I will do.

Remember, people do have options, opinions and all. Don’t try to hate what someone else is doing because you feel some superiority complex.